I'm excited and honored to have been asked to be a guest blogger for Shaunti Feldhahn. Here's a little preview, but be sure to head over to her site to read the article in its entirety!
"If you were to walk up to me and ask, “Michelle, if you could give me one piece of advice about where to deliberately focus my attention so that I’m not perpetuating the cycle of father wounds onto my daughter, what would it be?” Without hesitation I would say: Stop venting your anger at your daughter.
- Your anger destroys her spirit.
- Your anger shuts her down.
- Your anger makes her believe unloveable and unworthy and not worth loving.
- Your anger crushes the core of who she is.
Even if you feel justified in your expression of anger at her, stop and first ground yourself before exploding. I hear more stories from girls on how their dad’s anger deeply impacts them than I do anything else about their dads. I see the pain in their eyes as they tell the story and my heart breaks because I know their dads love them but oftentimes when he’s has had one too many things go wrong in his day with little to no margin left, he comes home and his daughter gets the fumes. It doesn’t take much for him then to blow, often treating her in a way that he later regrets, but by then the damage is done. She is left bleeding on the inside..."
To finish reading, head to Shaunti.com.
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